Anonymous
Nov 29, 2023
I am in dilemma i (M23) in confusion state with my crush (F24) , don't know what to do ?
my crush , she belongs to our building but different company she suddenly resigned from her company . I liked her very much , she is only crush till day i made a move got her no used to text frequently i was helping her with job aswell . Then she got job in other city . Our conversations was going fine after that even we used call each other . She used speak lot compared to me
Initially my friend who is mutual to her he knows her very well said many things about her don't go madly behind her she is not worth and good . I didn't care his words and i continued cuz for me she looks different from others . I only cared about present i don't want her past and all
In our chats i noticed she lied to me but i didn't care as initially no one dared to speak truth with others .
When i was in her city we went to dinner date , so that week goes smoothly . After a week i noticed she ignored me so i thought she is not interested okay that fine no issues . But she again started texting said she was busy that week .
So i take it as cool , later she did similarly ignoring me for a week and then again texting nicely with me .
I was like addicted to her messages, i gave my attention to her . I used care her much but for her me is nothing .
She used to do same ignoring me for a week and again texting me nicely. So i saw this pattern , i am loosing mental peace .
I should have listened to my frnd word Then decided to stay away from all the social media cuz i used to check her ( personally i felt bad about this ) .
Due to this i lost mental peace i start doubting myself so many negative thoughts come my mind
Recently again she starts texting me for a week and ignoring me for a week i didn't gave her much attention. I ignored her and she ignored me but I have feelings for her thought of confessing my feelings because she is reason for my first date , first phone call talks that too more than 30min
Initially my friend who is mutual to her he knows her very well said many things about her don't go madly behind her she is not worth and good . I didn't care his words and i continued cuz for me she looks different from others . I only cared about present i don't want her past and all
In our chats i noticed she lied to me but i didn't care as initially no one dared to speak truth with others .
When i was in her city we went to dinner date , so that week goes smoothly . After a week i noticed she ignored me so i thought she is not interested okay that fine no issues . But she again started texting said she was busy that week .
So i take it as cool , later she did similarly ignoring me for a week and then again texting nicely with me .
I was like addicted to her messages, i gave my attention to her . I used care her much but for her me is nothing .
She used to do same ignoring me for a week and again texting me nicely. So i saw this pattern , i am loosing mental peace .
I should have listened to my frnd word Then decided to stay away from all the social media cuz i used to check her ( personally i felt bad about this ) .
Due to this i lost mental peace i start doubting myself so many negative thoughts come my mind
Recently again she starts texting me for a week and ignoring me for a week i didn't gave her much attention. I ignored her and she ignored me but I have feelings for her thought of confessing my feelings because she is reason for my first date , first phone call talks that too more than 30min
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Nov 29, 2023
It's completely normal to feel confused and unsure about what to do when it comes to matters of the heart. Here are a few steps you can take to help navigate your dilemma:
1. Reflect on your feelings: Take some time to understand your own emotions and what you truly want. Consider why you have feelings for your crush and what you hope to achieve by pursuing a relationship with them.
2. Communicate openly: If you feel comfortable, have an open and honest conversation with your crush about your feelings. Express your confusion and ask for their perspective. Clear communication can help both of you understand each other better.
3. Consider their feelings: While it's important to express your own emotions, it's equally important to consider your crush's feelings. Pay attention to their reactions and responses during your conversation. If they don't reciprocate your feelings, it's essential to respect their decision and give them space.
4. Take your time: Don't rush into any decisions. Give yourself and your crush time to process your emotions and thoughts. Rushing into a relationship without clarity can lead to further confusion and potential heartbreak.
5. Seek advice from trusted friends or family: Sometimes, discussing your dilemma with someone you trust can provide valuable insights and perspectives. They may offer guidance or share their own experiences, which can help you make a more informed decision.
Remember, it's okay to feel uncertain, and it's important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness. Take things at your own pace and trust yourself to make the best decision for your own personal growth and happiness.
1. Reflect on your feelings: Take some time to understand your own emotions and what you truly want. Consider why you have feelings for your crush and what you hope to achieve by pursuing a relationship with them.
2. Communicate openly: If you feel comfortable, have an open and honest conversation with your crush about your feelings. Express your confusion and ask for their perspective. Clear communication can help both of you understand each other better.
3. Consider their feelings: While it's important to express your own emotions, it's equally important to consider your crush's feelings. Pay attention to their reactions and responses during your conversation. If they don't reciprocate your feelings, it's essential to respect their decision and give them space.
4. Take your time: Don't rush into any decisions. Give yourself and your crush time to process your emotions and thoughts. Rushing into a relationship without clarity can lead to further confusion and potential heartbreak.
5. Seek advice from trusted friends or family: Sometimes, discussing your dilemma with someone you trust can provide valuable insights and perspectives. They may offer guidance or share their own experiences, which can help you make a more informed decision.
Remember, it's okay to feel uncertain, and it's important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness. Take things at your own pace and trust yourself to make the best decision for your own personal growth and happiness.
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